Victims have no gender

You are a guy, stop crying! Come on, be a man and score that chic right. Your choice is so girly, are you even a guy? If you say any of these to your male friends, STOP RIGHT THERE! Because these things are not funny, actually it never was. Whether it’s a man, a woman or anyone from LBGT community. Yes, you read it right. 

MEN ASSAULTS ARE REAL. 

“Crime of assault is a patriarchal act”, they say. 

“It makes us feel powerful”, they say. 

Out of 3 in 10 men have been assaulted at least once in their lifetime and number 3 over here includes the number of men who could acknowledge the fact of being assaulted. The real reason behind why men can never consider themselves as an assault victim is because of nothing new but our same old judgmental society with the obsession of stereotyping it always have had and according to our society, only women could be considered as victims because men, on the other side, are way too strong and have way too much penis to be assaulted in any drastic way.

 The saddest part of all of this is that some men who have experienced such kind of trauma end up believing that what happened with them was consensual. Why? Because of the erection they had which unfortunately makes them believe that they enjoyed it. But how could they enjoy it when they never agreed to be molested like that? How could they enjoy it when that erection wasn't consensual, when it wasn't sexual? Such assaults are very common in prisons and military wars. 

According to a survey conducted in 2008, 98 out of 100 prisoner men claimed to be sexually assaulted by the prison staff. By both MALE(16%) AND FEMALE(69%). Researchers have found that even stress can cause erection but as a part of this pathetic society we do nothing rather than blaming the victims. Why? Because they didn’t pay attention to the neighborhood they were walking into or because they are way too friendly with other people or because they are kind enough to help strangers. 

“I was gang raped by six people at the age of 18. I still fear sleeping alone at night even though it’s been 12 years.”, says Vinodhan. 

Krishna, a guy from Kerala was sexually assaulted when he was 29. He couldn’t talk about this to his family, “Nobody will believe that a grown man can get attacked.”

I hope you get one point clear after reading this completely, “getting aroused while a rape situation is neither a consent nor a way of a victim asking for it.”

Dear victims, it's not your fault, it never is. So, please never let the abuse define you or your sexuality at any cost.

 It’s not you who needs to forget it, it’s the society who needs to stop judging someone based on their gender and it’s all of us who needs to bring the change and accept the fact that victims have no gender.

Transvestism

India's obsession with transvestism is nothing new.  Transvestism is a living style where men dress up as women and vice versa. I am sure you had the word 'hijras' in your mind after you read the above line. But actually there is a particular reason why people accept this living style and that is DESIRE. The thing is every man is a woman somewhere and the same goes with the woman. But not a lot of people are aware of this and this is mainly because the society we live in always hid this fact. This is natural and nothing is wrong about someone wanting to explore the feeling of being their opposite gender. A man who is always asked to wear tight fitting pants and manly shoes, don't you think the thought of roaming around in a skirt and flip flops would cross his mind sometimes? What if he feels comfortable in them? What if he feels himself in them? But NO! This is not what the society says. Why? Because then it would be hard to distinguish between the genders. 

Dressed like a woman and still with the same attitude

According to the Hindu Mythology, Lord Krishna used to have a Sringara tradition where he used to dress up like a woman, wear a lot of jewelries just to feel good. When our gods had no problem enjoying themselves in every way possible,  then who are we to judge?

If in a shopping mall, everyone is wearing manly leather pants it would be hard for people to recognize each other on the basis of their clothing because everyone will be united. Everyone will feel free and that is not what the society and the religions want. They don't want people to be free.  They want to suppress them as much as they could,  have a control over them , control over people's happiness, control over people's desire. Because once your reach your own level of happiness, you will stop caring about what the society says.

Homosexuality and its Paradoxes

Indian Philosophy has a vast history of homosexuality starting from the 8th century, yet a lot of people has no knowledge about it. Such people do not accept this kind of sexuality considering it a western trend and others find it offensive towards their religion and beliefs. What people don't know is that having sex with the same gender is not just a matter of attraction and satisfaction but it is also a desire of living. Do you know the basic difference between a homosexual and a heterosexual? NOTHING but being satisfied with a different genital! Great Indian texts like the Shatapatha Brahmana mentions homosexual union between two gods- Mitra and Varuna which was written in 800 B.C. Different medical texts written in 400 B.C such as the Sushruta Samhita describes homosexual, transgender and intersex condition as inborn.Also Ancient Indian temples such as Khajuraho Complex depicts two gay men engaging physically is another evidence to finally break the paradox of the people who cannot accept the desire of living of more than 10% of people presently living in India. WHY? Because their ancestors wouldn't have agreed to this (except knowing the fact that they actually started it.)

Mitra and Varuna


Another Paradox created to keep this issue off the table was that homosexuals reproduce comparatively low than the heterosexuals. Such people also claimed that engaging physically with the same gender is a sick mindset which needs to be cured either through religion practice or medical treatment. They don't even realize that the very first human being to acknowledge his attraction towards the same gender must have been terrified. He must have tried to run from his reality or hide it as much as he could. The fact that the society won't accept him must have haunted him and guess what? We are here talking about the first homosexual reproduced by two heterosexuals which proves that homosexuality is an emotion. A woman wanting to touch another woman's breast is an emotion, a feeling which cannot be determined by what her parents find attractive in bed.

LOVE IS LOVE!